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*Picture this/walk with me*
There I was sprawled out on my bed in my Shy Speaks white Tshirt (only), faux locs adorning my pillow, television on mute, fan blowing on my half nakedness, cellular phone in hand, enjoying the bliss of...ahh never mind. Let's go with rain. Yes, yes, it was raining. There I was enjoying the sound of the rain, flipping between answering messages and being thoroughly entertained by the savagery, parodies, news etc on my Facebook time line when I was hit up by the nonsense you just read. As you can see, earlier on in the day all I did was put a question mark. [Mind you this is someone that contacted me on 10/4 and we had very little conversation.] You see, when folks come at me sideways I like to first give them the opportunity to correct their mistake. Clearly, it HAS to be a mistake. I like to give folks that moment to breathe and adjust their tone, because 'please don't come for me unless I send for you.'
Now, I'm a sweety pie...until I'm NOT. I like to give people chances which may or may not be a good thing. However, you see when you disrespect me? Tuh! Pfft! Hmph! Chileeee.
Folks have been asking me why I did this photo shoot and I answered: it's honestly a just because shoot. I've had it on my bucket list to do a boudoir (check), sexy t-shirt and nude shoot. So when the opportunity arose with El Dattio I snatched it up! However, I was at lost with what to write about it. Do I just post the pics and say hey guys enjoy? Whenever I thought about it, a voice would say, don't worry it will come. AND BOI DID IT! After opening the conversation with our lovely friend Nate there I was INSTANTLY motivated. I was inspired. I knew what I was going to write about.
Ladies AND Gents you see that fuckery right THERE, that you just read? Don't let me EVER hear you allowed someone to mess with your self esteem. " ... and you haven't all these Cleveland Child and want to show off your body which I think you shouldn't have and I got my own personal reasons for that it kind of let me know what type of woman you are" I won't even address the grammar, but ohh my, looks like our friend Nate, judged and sentenced me. Oh I get it, so because I have a picture on Facebook with my boobs out suddenly I'm what exactly? Then we have "you talk about instant turn-off that I didn't know you like to show your body off like that and have your breast all out like you 135 pounds I'm surprised your friends are nobody until you stop doing that you don't need to be like that you seem like you're real smart and you don't need to show your body like that no man will respect you by doing that" Say what now? So because I'm not 135lbs I should be covered from head to toe and not show myself? It's these types of comments that will pry on someone who has a low self esteem. Now imagine if I wasn't the woman that I am, to not give a damn about what others say? I thank my brother for raising me the way he did. I thank you mother, sister and the women in my family for showing me to NEVER take SHIT from a man. I was teased mercilessly for my accent and size in this country and I don't recall ever running home about it. I was always wise enough to know that somehow what THEY say is some sort of LACK on THEIR part. Not mines. The second ANYONE tries to degrade you, belittle you, insult you, disrespect you, know that it's a LACK on THEIR part. It has NOTHING to do with you. You just go on and BE GREAT! Don't take that nonsense personally. Say to them: damn yo, sounds like a YOU problem, flip your mother loving hair and twirl on their ass and be out.
I don't understand it. As one of my Bae said:"Why can't a woman be confident? Loving myself doesn't mean I have to give myself to you." It sure doesn't! I've ran into the problem where there's been an increase of unsolicited penis pictures in my inbox. We could be having a normal conversation and then BAM a dick picture is sent. Why is that? Is it because of my profile picture? Let me explain something. I can have a picture of 'Ever Bless' (the name of my cooch) as my profile picture and that should NOT, I repeat, NOT give you the right to send me pictures of your penis or to disrespect me. I like the way my friend CB said it: "These BOYS have no finesse, no idea on how to approach a woman. Even if she's on HER page half naked she should still be talked to with respect. If she doesn't respond, move on. It's not that serious." It really isn't. It's like walking down the street and being hollered at and you continue walking and 'hey shawty, hey brown skin, hey sexy turns into you're a bitch you're a hoe.'
This man have no idea who I am or what I stand for but because he felt rejected and saw pictures on my page that HE didn't agree with he decided to attack me? I was supposed to answer his call after that? What was I supposed to do after? Ladies and gents, listen, there's no way I can take someone with this type of attitude or mentality seriously and neither should YOU!
We all have a story. We all can learn from the other. I'm not one to put things on blast but I decided to go full 100 on our friend Nate here. He, nor anyone will be successful in EVER shaming me.
With that said *cues India Arie's Video*
Please enjoy the continuation of my #ILoveMe campaign.
Photo shoot done by the talented:
El Dattio. http://eldattio.com/
Location: OneLens Production Studios: http://www.onelensprod.com/
Makeup: GetGlambyGlamazon Ms. Iesha: getglambyglamazon.com
Be GREAT yall
"I’m not the average girl from your video
And I ain’t built like a supermodel
But I learned to love myself unconditionally,
Because I am a Queen
I not the average girl from your video
My WORTH is not determined by the price of my clothes
No matter what I’m wearing I will always be India Arie [Shy Davis]"
"When I look in the mirror and the only one there is me
Every freckle on my face is where it’s suppose to be
And I know my Creator didn’t make no mistakes on me
My feet, my thighs, my Lips, my eyes, I’m loving what I see"
"Am I less of a lady if I don’t wear pantyhose?
My momma said a lady ain’t what she wears but WHAT she KNOWS…
But I’ve drawn the conclusion, it’s all an illusion
Confusion’s the name of the game
A misconception, a vast deception,
Something got to CHANGE"
"Now don’t be offended this is all my opinion
Ain’t nothing that I’m saying law
This is a true confession
Of a life learned lesson
I was sent here to share with y'all
So get in when you fit in
Go on and shine
Clear your mind
Now’s the time
Put your SALT on the shelf
Go on and love yourself
‘Cause everything’s gonna be alright"
"Keep your fancy drink, and your expensive minks
I don’t need that to have a good time
Keep your expensive cars and your caviar
All’s I need is my guitar"
"Keep your crystal and your pistol
I’d rather have a pretty piece of crystal
Don’t need your silicone, I prefer my own
What God gave me is just fine…"